tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3417428336689971086.post630570255791399038..comments2023-03-27T05:07:48.924-07:00Comments on The Girl From Park Heights: The Approaching-30 MindfuckLady Dulaynehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16707829141353266893noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3417428336689971086.post-47911065209933304172008-01-16T18:11:00.000-08:002008-01-16T18:11:00.000-08:00Ouch, Candi -- the truth burns! Fortunately, she d...Ouch, Candi -- the truth burns! Fortunately, she doesn't like shoes THAT much... but the vacation thing could be a problem.<BR/><BR/>I'll be sure to keep my guard up whenever I finally get married!Not Your Average Malehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03237588040187547005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3417428336689971086.post-44590923919099882292008-01-16T09:31:00.000-08:002008-01-16T09:31:00.000-08:00Not your Average Male - the love of your life is p...Not your Average Male - the love of your life is probably thinking the same thing. "That means more shoes and vacations for me -- even if I have to drag the husband along."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3417428336689971086.post-32659646114428498802008-01-15T17:07:00.000-08:002008-01-15T17:07:00.000-08:00Allow me to post the one positive aspect of homeow...Allow me to post the one positive aspect of homeownership: EQUITY. It's priceless.<BR/><BR/>That being said, I hate maintenance. It's annoying. Joint compound here, new heater there, caulk windows here, etc... it gets old really quickly -- especially when you do it alone.<BR/><BR/>Which is the awesome benefit of being married. I have more money in which to dip my grubby fingers. That means more PS2 games and cocktails for me -- even if I have to drag the wife along.<BR/><BR/>Not that I don't also agree with 99.9% of what everybody else said, but I just figured I'd be the one to put something relatively positive up.<BR/><BR/>P.S.: According to Missy Elliott, big asses ROCKNot Your Average Malehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03237588040187547005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3417428336689971086.post-31927722381961948642008-01-14T21:15:00.000-08:002008-01-14T21:15:00.000-08:00I'm 37. 30 wasn't a big deal for me. 25 was was fa...I'm 37. 30 wasn't a big deal for me. 25 was was far more traumatic. I remember thinking, "well, there's no more avoiding it, you are a grown ass man." Even 35 was an uneventful milestone. Then again, I'm aging in man-years. The older I get, the more the balance of power swings in my favor. <BR/><BR/>As to marriage and homeownership, been there, done that, have the 17 year old kid in college to prove it. A house is a huge pain in the ass. There is constantly something to maintain or repair. I'd never want to live in an actual house again. Just the thought of edging a lawn or cleaning a gutter is enough to make my head ache. Plus, I hate driving. When you own a home out in the suburban hinterland, you have to drive everywhere. As someone who is done with the whole kid thing, I have no use further use for the suburbs. I like to be able to walk out of my building and buy a paper, walk to Barnes & Noble, walk to the grocery store, bar, theater, etc...<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, renting is basically throwing tens of thousands of dollars down a hole (I own my apartment.) It's strictly condos, and maybe one day a co-op, for me from here on out. <BR/><BR/>P.S. You can send all of the badonkadonk butts that cross your path my way.Hoopermazinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16949687410945253839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3417428336689971086.post-4458242588223114642008-01-14T13:18:00.000-08:002008-01-14T13:18:00.000-08:00Mamma said babies come out your vajayjay.Mamma said babies come out your vajayjay.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3417428336689971086.post-64417767133075015912008-01-12T20:30:00.000-08:002008-01-12T20:30:00.000-08:0030, that’s old. I know, I hit the big 3-0 last mon...30, that’s old. I know, I hit the big 3-0 last month. Yep, dat’s right, I’m a Sagittarius along with Tiger Woods, Samuel L. Jackson, and Britney Spears. What what what!<BR/><BR/>While I’m not a sufferer of the female condition, the number 30 still made me consider the four topics you’ve mentioned as well. Anyway, aging sucks. Marriage, Kids, and Homeownership are the three largest commitments human beings can make.<BR/><BR/>Marriage—is a legal document that signifies a sexual, spiritual, social, financial, physical, emotional, and love commitment to one person. When people get divorced, the courts only view it as a financial commitment. In such, the person in the marriage accruing the most income encounters the most risk. <BR/><BR/>Kids----having kids will change your life forever. Every decision you make changes after you have children. If you want to be a good, responsible parent, then you’ll need to think of your children’s needs before your own. That’s just a guess though, I ain’t got no kids, lady. <BR/><BR/>Homeownership---Just like any investment, there’s a risk/reward continuum to be considered. Will you still like your job after 2, 5, or 10 years? Will you be able to find work in the area if you want something different? How will the community grow? Will Barksdale’s crew start selling crack on your street corners? How are the schools in the area? Will you outgrow the house? <BR/><BR/>Dat’s enough mindphucking for one day. In closing I’ll say, there are no guarantees in life. Sometimes you just have push ALL-IN and hope for the best. I guess the safest of these three things is homeownership b/c you can always sale your house (and if you set up shop there long enough you’ll probably be able to make some money). With marriage and kids though, the cheese gets more binding b/c you’re dealing with real people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3417428336689971086.post-56568090912043893852008-01-11T12:21:00.000-08:002008-01-11T12:21:00.000-08:00Skeptic- I hear what you're saying about life not ...Skeptic- I hear what you're saying about life not being a race, but I feel like time is flying by. FLYING! Like we just rung in 2008, I feel like we'll be ringing in 2009 before long wondering where the year went. And its only going faster. And while the house and the marriage can wait, biologically, I only have so much time to have a baby and even less if I want more than one. Some studies say that fertility declines by 60% after age of 35 (for a woman) so while I'm young and have time now, that time is slowly running out and I essentially have about 5 years before I have to get very worried. That's 5 good years to fall in love, get engaged, get married and upgrading to better housing. <BR/><BR/>As for the housing stuff, I forgot to also mention property taxes, which are increasing in Bmore and insurance. Two things I don't have to worry about renting.<BR/><BR/>There's always fine print.Lady Dulaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16707829141353266893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3417428336689971086.post-28902398606012232972008-01-11T09:51:00.000-08:002008-01-11T09:51:00.000-08:00The idea of turning 30 literally makes me want to ...The idea of turning 30 literally makes me want to have a cyanide and sleeping pill cocktail (and I'm 1366 days, or 320,806 hours, or1,968,338 minutes from 30 at the time I'm typing this). Sometimes I feel that Candi and I are a bit behing in life but then we realize that we're not behind we're just on an alternate route. Life isn't a race it's an experience. So as far as the concerns you have control of, take your time. I'm sure you already know this seeing as though you seem to be having a good time with life.<BR/><BR/>But I totally agree with your reservations about homeowning. It seems like such an overwhelming undertaking. But, it's nice to say that you own something, ya know?Rashardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14395018801336319654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3417428336689971086.post-17546797563804864462008-01-11T08:46:00.000-08:002008-01-11T08:46:00.000-08:00GFPH, considering that I am right behind you I hav...GFPH, considering that I am right behind you I have say that this is by far one of the most uplifting blogs I've ever read. Thanks for helping me to start my rainy morning on such a chipper note. <BR/><BR/>ps Try not to worry so much. From what I hear worry=crows feet=not a good luck. :)Music Snobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17235252726940809299noreply@blogger.com